Here’s my question for you — who are you on this journey for? Is it yourself? Your kids? Your spouse? Your family? Your dog? Who is the person behind the wheel driving you to your destination? And what is at the end of your destination?
Here are the things I’ve said in the past I’m on my journey for:
This guy —
These goofs —
When I originally got behind the wheel on this fitness, nutrition and coaching business, those 3 were my destination. I wanted to get fit and healthy so my kids could see it’s fun and people need to be active. I wanted to get fit and healthy to help inspire my husband so he would do the same, little did I know he’d surpass me with his own 65+lb weight loss journey. I’ve taken a lot of detours over the past few years, hit a few bumps in the road. I’ve played the blame game, I’ve thrown down excuses like it was my full-time job.
Want to know something? Those three will be at my destination whether I hit my goals or not. They’ll be in the car with me, but they’re not in charge of the direction I’m driving in. I’m in charge. It’s my journey, it’s my destination and in the end, I’m not doing this for the three of them.
I’m doing it for this girl —
I’m doing it for me. It may seem selfish “Oh no, she’s focusing on her!” It’s not selfish. It’s an exciting thing happening within me. I get to help people. I get to help myself. I may not be the most fit person in the world (YET), but I get to do something that I love. I get to help others start their journey and cheer them on wherever they are on their journey. I get to be myself and set my own goals and objectives. I get to be my own boss. I get to see my own successes and learn from bumps in the road. It’s the one thing in my life that is about me.
I do this because…
It makes me happy.
It satisfies my soul.
I’m passionate about it.
A rule of thumb I always hear about when it comes to food is live by the 80/20 rule of healthy/fun foods. I never quite understood it. Like, I get it, I realize it’s eat 80% healthy all the time and you have 20% mess ups. I feel like I’m working my way there, I believe I’m at more of a 50/50 pace right now.
On the way into work, I was listening to Shaun T’s podcast from July. He talked about the 80/20 rule and he put it so simplistically, even I was able to understand it. And I thought, it would be great to just share it.
Write a list down of 5 healthy foods you like; and a list of 5 fun foods you love.
Then take 4 of those healthy foods and 1 of the fun foods:
- If you multiply 4 x 365 days a year it equals 1460
- If you take 1 x 52 weeks a year it equals 52.
So over the course of 1 year if you eat 1,460 healthy foods for your meals and only have that 1 special treat every week, you’re not going to gain weight. You’re going to be living a healthier lifestyle and chances are, if you’re not eating this way now, you’ll lose weight.
When it was broken down like this for me, it’s like a light bulb went off. It’s not an 80/20 rule per day. It’s an 80/20 rule per week. And it’s not for every 4 things good/healthy you eat you get 1 bad thing. Plus, keep in mind portion control! You can’t eat 3lbs of grilled chicken in one sitting, yea it’s healthy, but unless you’re Beast-ing up with Sagi Kalev, you’re probably going to go outside of your calorie goals.
So what are my thoughts when it comes to birthdays, vacations and holidays?
- Birthdays = in my mind are 0-calorie days. Don’t go hog wild, but at the same time, you know you’re going to have some sort of treat, don’t feel guilty about it.
- Vacations = I know on most vacations, I can get away with eating a decent breakfast (mostly the Shakeology I brought of a Quest bar), and I’ll try to pack healthier snacks. It’s not always possible. But it’s vacation. If I’ve been working hard with exercise and food prior to my trip(s), what I eat in 5 days isn’t going to totally derail me. Now, if I’ve been eating crappy and drinking too much alcohol, I’m not really going into the trip with the best health to begin with.
- Holidays = Thanksgiving is 1 day. Christmas is 1 day. New Years Eve is 1 day. If you’re not celebrating the actual holiday on the holiday, pick one of the times you will overindulge. OR if you celebrate Christmas 3-4x, pick the meal. You know you’re eating dinner at your in-laws, make sure you stay on track with breakfast and lunch being healthy and lighter meals.
- I’m adding another holiday — Mother’s Day. This is the best day of the year, even better than my birthday. It’s my 0-calorie, judgement free – I don’t make decisions – I don’t do baths – I don’t do laundry – I don’t do anything – day. As long as it’s spent with my kids and my husband, that’s the most important thing. And if I want to stick a straw in a pitcher of margarita’s (and not share) that’s my decision. A judgement free day.
I have some questions for you! Sound off in the comments section of this blog post!!
- Do you have trouble with following an 80/20 rule? Why?
- Are you good or bad at portion control?
- What stops you from achieving the results you want?
Let’s get some discussion going.
Just finished “You are a Badass” by JenSincero. I should say I “finally” finished it… It was a great personal development book for me to read. Insightful and inspiring.
A year ago I probably would not have started reading personal development books if I hadn’t signed up as a Beachbody Coach. Personal development is one of the things highly promoted for coaches. I’ve always been one to check out this section in a Barnes & Noble (then google the cost of the book on Amazon because it’s usually cheaper) and I have always felt this “oh please don’t see me here… people will think I’m crazy for looking at self-help book!” On the other hand, I’ve always been intrigued by the human brain and body – and reading these type of books has helped me look inside myself to see what things I need to work on and where I need to tweak and how I can make my dreams come true.
I’m not an elite coach (yet), I’m not a diamond coach (yet) — diamond is my next goal as a coach. I’d like to be a 1-star diamond by Summit next July and be able to walk (and happily sweat/glow) on the field during the opening ceremonies. How cool would that be? Maybe even get to 2-star diamond and watch my business grow as I help more and more people and my team helps more and more people. I feel blessed to have my support system in Mark, he has been a constant positive in my life when it comes to career and education choices. His support with my decision to be a Beachbody Coach and his repetitive line of “Stop that, it’s all going to work out for you because you’ve got this!” has helped me to stay focused and keep plugging away.
I’m ready to start my next PD book — Simon Sinek’s “Leaders Eat Last”
What personal development are you reading? Are you putting into action the words from the book?